I was flipping through a magazine when I caught a whizzing blur out of the corner of my eye. It was my nine-year-old running through the front lawn with her friends. I smiled as I realized I had just practiced a lazy way to be a better a mom: I did nothing.
That's right. When my daughter claimed she was bored five minutes ago, I refused to entertain her. She could do something about it, after all.
And so she did.
I know other lazy ways to be a better parent, too. Because who has time to read countless articles and books on being a better mom and incorporate their highfalutin action items amidst laundry, homework, extracurricular activities, work, passion projects, birthday parties, and more?
These 10 lazy ways to be a better parent require no more effort than reading this article and realizing that 1) you're already doing these, 2) you can easily do these, or 3) you will never do all of these at once – and that's okay.
Ready to be lazy? Here we go:
1 | Laugh with your kids. It's easy, free, and enjoyable. Even if you just laugh at stupid poop jokes, like my family does, laughing releases endorphins and gives you a subtle rush.
2 | Sleep on it. With apologies to anyone in the newborn phase, moms of older kids can go to bed earlier, get up later, or take a short nap on the couch for 15 minutes while the kids watch TV or YouTube. (I tried that last suggestion myself. Thumbs up!) You'll feel recharged and happier with a bit more shut-eye.
3 | Stay hydrated. You'll feel more contented if you've been drinking enough. Of course I mean water. Mostly. But that's not to say that my teenager and I don't swing by the drive-thru every so often to indulge in a large soda pop. Sure, there's no nutritional value, blah blah blah. However, it makes me happy, my teenager loves it, and my thirst is quenched.
4 | Say, "I love you." Nevermind if your daughter replies with, "Great." (True story.) No matter how often you say this phrase, just say it. Your kids, and their hearts, will blossom when they hear those three little words.
5 | Hug your kids. I like to grab my teenager and give him a squeeze. He protests, but I think he likes it. Physical touch prevents illness and creates a tangible bond. Chances are, your kids will hug you back.
6 | Do nothing. Let them be bored and figure out for themselves how to live with that or change that.
7 | Be yourself. Show them that you're not perfect and that everyone has flaws as well as awesomeness. I like to think I'm celebrating my imperfections when I sing the wrong lyrics to pretty much every song on the radio, with my kids in the car of course.
8 | Listen. Once my daughter spent 20 minutes replaying every mundane moment of the dream she had the night before. I spent 20 minutes nodding and saying, "Uh huh," while drinking coffee and watching the news. It worked for both of us.
9 | Don't compare your kids. To each other, to their friends, or to you. When my husband tells our son that he used to do X, Y, and Z to be a better hockey player in high school, I can see my son's eyes glazing over. There will always be someone who is faster, stronger, tougher, cuter (thanks, Heidi Klum), smarter, etc.
10 | Let them fail. It takes effort to intervene and fix things for them. When my daughter tried to build a sidecar for her stuffed animals on her scooter, I knew it wouldn't work. However, she needed to see for herself that 23 stuffed animals in a shoebox taped to her handlebars wouldn't cut it. She reaped the benefits of resilience and perseverance when she redesigned a working sidecar. So what if it held one stuffed animal, not 23.
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