We don’t own guns. Neither my husband or I grew up around them, and to be honest, I can’t recall ever seeing a handgun that wasn't strapped to a police officer. We aren’t anti-toy guns (as evidenced by the stray Nerf gun foam bullets scattered over our yard), but my kids’ relationship with them ends there.
I’ve reiterated the rules to both of my kids if they ever find themselves in the same room as a gun at least three dozen times:
STOP.
Do not touch it.
Move as far away as possible. Preferably, out of the house.
Tell an adult.
But the truth is, that’s not enough. For one thing, my 10-year-old has to accumulate 40 consecutive hours of me telling him ANYTHING before he commits it to memory. (Including but not limited to "put your dishes in the dishwasher ," "stop making your sister scream," and "if you can smell your feet, I shouldn’t have to tell you to wash them.")
Despite the serious nature of the rules around guns, his (totally age appropriate) track record suggests I’d be foolish to assume he’s fully grasped this one just because his life depends on it.
Moreover, kids do incredibly dumb things when they're with their friends, or get caught in the fallout. Once, at a friend’s potluck family dinner party, several boys were implicated in what has become known as “The Onion Fight Incident.” I’m 98% certain mine had nothing to do with it, but he certainly didn’t call a ceasefire.
The fact is, kids are curious. And expecting them to resist the urge to touch something that’s off limits is fine if it’s a birthday cake or an expensive bottle of perfume. (Spoiler alert- they probably won't.)
Keeping guns out of the hands of our children is on us.
It's time to normalize the conversation about gun safety.
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